My Grandpa Kevin passed away one week ago. When I told my kids Grandpa Kevin had left us, Milo said, “But I don’t want him to be because I love him.” Lily is always so sweet to remind us that he is alive in heaven. 🙂
God saw him getting tired,
a cure was not to be.
He wrapped him in His loving arms
and whispered, “Come with me.”
He suffered much in silence,
his spirit did not bend.
He faced his pain with courage,
until the very end.
He tried so hard to stay with us
but his fight was not in vain,
God took him to His loving home
and freed him from the pain.
Until the past year when his health was failing, he and Grandma Ruth would travel down for the kids’ birthday parties, and we would visit them at least once a year. My kids are so blessed to have gotten to know a great-grandparent so well, and they will continue to know Grandma Ruth in the future.
When Milo was born, they came to stay with us to take care of Lily while we were at the hospital. When Silas was born last summer, my aunt graciously offered to care for my grandpa so Grandma Ruth could come down for his birth. She was scheduled to fly in two days before his due date (Milo made us wait a few days after his, so we weren’t expecting any different.) but he came one day before her arrival. She came straight from the airport to the hospital to meet our Silas.
Our family traveled to his funeral. Christopher and Milo were pallbearers with the rest of the grandsons and grandsons-in-law. My grandmother asked if I would like to play the piano for his service. I agreed to play the prelude only because I knew I was still too emotionally raw from my own child’s funeral, not yet seven months before. I love the songs from musicals my grandfather loved, and I am so glad I agreed to play those songs for him, even though I did not feel strong enough to do so.
My grandmother wrote down some thoughts for the minister to share at the end of the service, and below are some of those words.
In February, early in his illness, Kevin was dreaming and talking aloud like he often did, when he asked Ruth, “Can you see all the people around the room?” he stated, pointing to the ceiling. Ruth replied, “Do you see people you know?” “Yes,” he answered. “What are their names?” As he pointed to them he named, “Melvin & Olive, my parents, Dale my brother, your brother David, and the Baby.” “Do you see anyone else you know?” Ruth asked. “No, but lots of people.” Ruth left the room for a second to contain herself. When she returned Kevin asked, “Where have you been? All these people are here to celebrate. The other rooms are full too, lots of people all around so we can have a celebration. Somebody keeps carrying the baby all around!” “A celebration?” she questioned. “A BIG celebration!” he replied. …On Wednesday, March 5th, 2014 at 5:05 PM there was a BIG celebration in HEAVEN and no more pain!
Until this was read at the service, I had not known that in the weeks before my grandpa’s death, he had seen Silas. I was so surprised, because in the stories I have heard about people who are nearing death seeing loved ones lost, the loved ones are usually a part of their past, their earlier years, and yet, my grandfather never got to meet Silas and Silas had so recently joined our family.
Silas is surrounded by loved ones lost who are carrying him around, but when those words were read, I pictured Christopher’s mother, Silas’ grandma, holding him, just as I did the day Silas left my arms. Now that my grandfather has finally met my baby boy, I picture him standing tall and carrying my Silas all around heaven, especially the places that are similar to our woods and forests for my grandpa loved being out in nature.
Before my grandpa passed away, at my request, my grandma asked him to give Silas hugs and kisses and lots of love from his mama.